Need

I've always been bugged when a guy or girl would say to their crush "I need you."  I personally considered that idea as absolutely ridiculous, but more importantly, I saw it as unstable.  I didn't and I still don't quite know what causes relationships to end, but I attributed it to the fact that, as naturally as it came to need each other at one point, that need, also naturally, faded. 

As life goes on and I see everyone stutter and fall sometimes, I have become aware of the fact that we all do need each other.  And as disgusted as I was by people who said they needed each other, but let that idea die when they no longer felt like maintaining it, I have been forced to accept that I am also wrong in my belief that no one actually does need anyone.

When it comes to developing a strong relationship with a person, I'm starting to realize that intimacy comes with understanding your need for that person.  It feels incredibly good to be needed, so recognizing your need for someone else is actually a very effective way to develop that relationship.  It might not even be a quality you can recognize yet, it might be something hidden behind layers and layers of walls.  It might be a part of you that you don't even realize you don't have, but there is always a quality in someone that is worth knowing.

I struggle very much, not with seeing how I could need someone else- I'm very good at recognizing good qualities in my friends and, in turn, becoming jealous of that quality to the point where I even become a little bitter- but I struggle with recognizing that people in some way need me as well.

I don't think I have great qualities, when my self esteem is in the dump and I just go invisible, I don't always see people reach out to find me.  That makes me feel completely unneeded and that hurts.  It's something I do to myself though for sure.  I sit back and judge the world without me like it's not even something I want to be a part of, but it is.  Living in this world is the only way I can see or have the positive effect I want.

We, as people, are all made in God's image, we are a body of Christ, capable of doing the amazing things He did, and capable of doing very simple pleasant works of generosity.  I feel that means we all have a quality of God that needs to be shown- hence why we need each other.  As a church, if we are all showing the element of God we've been given, we would be, as a unit, the essence of God.  That's why we need each other, that's why I need you and you need me.  God gives us the Bible, Words we can live by, not to restrict who we are, but to accentuate those qualites He gave us to show.  Our need, even if we can't recognize it, is to help each other develop those good qualities and to act on them, as a unit, interdependent on one another, to do the good deeds prepared in advance for us to do.

That's how it's structured in my mind.  I know it's just a concept that I hope everyone can relate to, I'm not trying to add to what God said, but I know there is a lot of His perspective that I am missing, and recognizing how I need someone else is, what I believe to be, one more step in truly loving other people, loving myself, and seeing thing's from God's perspective.